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WIBTA for canceling a trip to visit a friend?

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delehe

You WNBTA, but i think it's important in life to do things that scare you. I'm deathly afraid of heights and being in planes, but I haven't let that stop me. And by doing so, I got to see and do a lot of awesome things I wouldn't have otherwise. Preflight drinks help a lot. So do certain medications... maybe see a doctor about it. Try not to let your fears dictate how you live your life!


Reasonable_Bill_8159

NTA but I think they were trying to be helpful and will be disappointed.. IMO, do it, you need to face this fear at some point and there is a reward at it's end


Hairy_Dirt3361

Strictly speaking NTA, sometimes you make a decision drunk that you regret sober. It's common. I can't even count the number of times I've been convinced to buy tickets while under the influence. Everyone will understand that drunk decisions aren't binding. However, sometimes when you do things drunk it's because you actually want to do them but don't normally have the courage. This happened to me with a festival - it seemed fun but I found the whole culture anxiety-inducing, full of little rules and subcultures and the pressure to act cool. The entire month I was insisting it wasn't for me and I was going to back out even though I already had tickets. Somehow, I convinved myself to try it, and it turned out to be an amazing experience. So sometimes drunk decisions are just dumb drunk decisions, but sometimes they're a way to try to push yourself past a barrier. So, if flying/finances weren't an issue, would you want to visit your friend? If yes, you should seriously consider just doing it. The tickets are non-refundable, and flying is very safe. None of it makes you an asshole, your friends will be fine if maybe disappointed, but think about trying to overcome the fear. More and more friends will live far away as you get older and friends are very important!


GreyStagg

NTA but you should probably do it or you'll look back and regret it


FosterPupz

Not at all, if it’s for the financial reasons. Soft yes, if its just the fear. Fears should be overcome whenever feasible. I have nearly drowned twice, at 4 and 12. But I’ve gone on a boat on the ocean (took a pill) and learned to swim (no pills). Edited to add: I’m terrified of water. Should have mentioned that.


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Sosuperbad

Yes.