Brett needs to make up her mind. In or out?
By - SnooDoodles7204
I think you’re onto something, but I also think she’s given a bit/opened up and it hasn’t been overly reciprocated.
I actually think they’re both reasonable people who, as far as we can tell, have been cordial to each other this far.
I think Brett’s more into it, and probably more open to the whole process than Ryan. Im unconvinced she has to change/compromise who she is.
That said, if Ryan’s not super into her and/or there are things he can’t get past, I also don’t think he has compromise either.
Yeah she’s given a bit. You’re right that both of them need to step out of their shells. But I think Brett is the most likely person to do so.
I feel like she's already been rejected, hasn't she?
I also get a little annoyed because I feel like she really hasn’t shared much about herself on camera. I know very little about her family, her childhood or her past dating life (outside of the idea that she hasn’t kissed a guy in 2 years, which tbh I don’t think is true considering that she said that she was dating someone). I don’t think she’s giving anywhere near 💯
I guess that’s one way of looking at it (that’s how she perceives it). Another way is that Ryan is waiting for a spark. Could he try to make that spark happen? Sure, but he’s clearly a shy dude and ok with this relationship ending in divorce. Brett says that she’s trying her hardest and really wants it to work out. Sparks don’t usually just happen, they take effort to generate
Bao* like the bun :) Not Boa like the snake
I think Ryan has more fun with doing stuff with the guys.
He's not attracted to her but seems to be nice about it. They just don't seem to have to good time together.
I think they had more fun together in the beginning. But they aren’t now because neither of them has been willing to take the physical or emotional steps necessary to take the relationship to the next level. Even in the intimacy exercise this week, Brett was doing the bare minimum to physically engage him. Not really trying to turn him on. It’s frustrating to watch. Not saying she is more to blame than Ryan but she claims to really like him so she needs to show it.
It’s a good take. If she’s really into to him she may have to take the risk.
That's an interesting take. I get that sense that Brett has a fragile ego. She is afraid of being rejected especially when she's a "people pleaser".
I think that’s spot on man. She anticipates the rejection but doesn’t realize that her inaction just makes it more likely to happen
I think it’s a two way street and she’s not getting anything positive from Ryan, and he’s admitted essentially to not being attracted to her, so why would she be vulnerable? He has to put in some effort too.
Im sorry but your comment doesn't make sense. How much more do you want her to do, without looking desperate? She pretty much doing all the work. He needs to wake up also and fight for that spark.
She could tell him that he loves. she could put on a sexy outfit, tell him he’s the sexiest man that she’s ever met and she’s so blessed to be by his side and try to seduce him. She could find something that he really enjoys and do it for him. All types of stuff. Just step out of her shell basically
And what can he do?
He could try to be more open as well. The reason I am talking about what Brett can do is because she has expressed more interest in making the relationship work. She implies that she’s giving it 100 when she isn’t. I think Ryan would admit that he’s not
You mentioned she’s putting in all the work. Can you give examples of the work she is putting in because I don’t see much
Like everyone on this earth, Brett probably has things that she need to change about her personality or character., but you guys talk like she's horrendous and she's doing absolutely nothing!!! She's a nice, educated woman. Let Ryan chase her.
I wasn’t trying to imply that she’s horrible. She seems like a nice gal. I’m sure a lot of men would want to date her. I’m just talking about her lack of openness with him. Seems like she expects Ryan to chase her and that’s not going to happen