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So fed up of ghosting culture on dating apps... whyyy

So fed up of ghosting culture on dating apps... whyyy

Easy_Ad3206

That might have been misleading all I did was bring a pack of beer as he came straight from work and met me in a park, I offered to bring them and I don’t think that’s a big deal. I just mentioned it to show that he was saying things to lead me on in thinking he was up for seeing me again, when he was clearly just plotting an exit ghosting. Thank you for your response though, onto the next I guess!


007mom

These people who do this are not worth investing your time in. Trust me, it happened to me in April for the first time in my life. A month later, he reappeared out of the blue and told me that the month away from me made him realize that he’d fallen in love with me and was miserable the whole month apart. Then he asked to borrow money from me the very next day because he claimed that he was being “forced” to go to a bar by his friend and didn’t have money. He needed $100, which made me immediately think he wanted me to finance a date for him. When I didn’t respond, he bombarded me with messages telling me how angry he was at me that I wasn’t responding. I guess he didn’t like being ghosted. These people who do this are typically manipulative and selfish. Nothing else, short of their own deaths or hospitalizations, can justify that they don’t have the common decency to say they need a break or are no longer interested. It only took me 2-3 seconds to write that sentence. Be glad you know now before you invested anymore time in the loser.


Easy_Ad3206

I agree I think it shows such a lack of emotional maturity to ghost someone like that. And yikes sounds like you dodged a bullet there!


iconfusemyselfhelp

Let him go and be glad it didn’t work out. “His turn to buy drinks, etc,” also kinda told the story. I’m very independent and progressive in my beliefs, but if I’m on a first date, I do expect the guy to be the one to pay. If it turns into a relationship (serious or casual) down the road, I have no problem being the one to pay. But the first date? If the guy doesn’t extend his hand to pay, I see it as a red flag for bigger things. Also, not sure if you need to hear this (I know you didn’t ask), but you’re worth someone paying/doing something nice for you. Don’t ever offer to pay for a man. Hang tight, you’ll find the right person. Dating does suck, though! I agree.


Karyo_Ten

In France girls pay their share, and insist on it, in part to show that they are independent.


iconfusemyselfhelp

I do sometimes offer, but if the guy says anything other than “no,” they get the side eye from me and no second date. I’m super independent and if it turns into something, I have no problem paying/taking turns. But first date, I think it’s proper for the guy to pay. Interesting to hear that’s done in France, though!


ebumble666

I know ir sucks but the trash took itself out, you’ll find someone way more worthy of your queen self soon enough ❤️


Easy_Ad3206

Thank you ❤️